[imported_Bella Harpell]

that's what pits is! a place where everyone can meet and talk. there is no fighting there because we don't allow it, so it's essentially the same as people realizing its a place to just talk and leave their problems at the door.

Not allowing people to fight at a social place isn't the same at all it's actually completley different. It creates a completley different atmosphere when fighting in an area is technically allowed by the rules but the players take it upon themselves to say "hey we've got a good thing going here lets not screw it up" than when the GMs set down a rule saying "you can't fight here". The players aren't realizing on their own that its just a place to hang out, it's being shoved down their throats.

I personally think any kind of outside interference (ie. unnessicary rules) dealing with person to person interaction is a quick way to kill the atmosphere of a server.

Sure you could come to my Inn as a noob and have a good time and probably never get bothered as long as you didn't mouth off to the wrong person but it's just like going to any bar in the real world. If you start shit talking with the wrong person you'd end up getting your ass handed to you on the way out. Gives it a more realistic community feeling instead of a GM imposed be-nice-or-else feeling.